Haha, one of my tetras, Rummert, attacked the test strip when I put it in. Fiesty little guy

TAP:
Nitrate: 10
Nitrite: 0
*Hardness: 10
KH-180
pH: 8.2
TANK:
Nitrate: 20
Nitrite: 0
Hardness: 10
**KH: 300+
***pH: 8
*I have a water softener that automatically softens all the water in my house
** How do I get the buffering cappacity down and where is it ideal? Its been this high for quite a while.
*** GAHHHHHH! Stupid pH. My pH doesn't like to change. If you get the pH ideal with pH down after a water change, after a week will the pH return to the natural pH? I hate adding sulfuric acid to my tank, but the 'Correct pH' stuff I was using before wasn't working. I think I may have stubborn water ._.
The conditioner bottle says "add one table spoon for every ten gallons." It has a measureing ring on the cap for ten gallons and 20 gallons. I use Tetra Aquasafe.
The pH down says " add 1/2 teaspoon for each 20 US gallons of aquarium water. Take another pH reading before adding the next dose of pH down. Do not change the pH more than .2 in 24 hours with fish present in the water." I use Aquarium Pharmaceuticals and it says "contains no phosphates". I don't know what that means, it might help tho

I'm so glad other people are wondering this, I felt pretty stupid posting this question.